Oct
15

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I don’t get very personal on here often but I received an e-mail last week and after I read through it I knew I had to be a little more open. The person had commented that my life looks so perfect. She wondered if my house was ever a mess or if I ever had bad days. When I read the words “perfect” I literally gasped. Ahh…  if only she knew how far from perfect my life is. I try to keep my blog uplifting and a “happy place” to visit with great pictures, crafts and recipes, but I promise… my life is far from perfect. No I don’t craft and bake cupcakes everyday. No my house isn’t always clean. Most days you can find me in jeans, a wicked shirt and a messy bun (who knows how long it’s been there). ;)

Many of you don’t know this but blogging has actually become a FULL time job over the past year. Many of you also don’t know that it takes an average of 3-5 hours to craft one post by the time I create the project/ recipe, photograph it, edit the pictures, write the post and then promote the post. I work very hard at creating great posts for you and I realize my grammar isn’t always perfect either. It really is exhausting at times… but I love it! Once the kids are in bed (around 8pm) I work until about 1 am. I also put about 3 hours in during the day (during nap time and any free moment when the kids are playing well together).

I feel that this blog has been a HUGE blessing to my family in so many ways and I only hope that it has helped a few of you. Over the past year my husband hasn’t lived at home for about six months out of the year… so I was pretty much a single mom. I started this blog initially because I was SO bored at night while he studied hours and hours every single night. My husband is in his last year of medical school and has been doing rotations all around the country. This past year was THE hardest year of my entire life. To all the single moms out there, you truly are my hero! You really are.

The day my husband left I remember hugging him, bawling, not wanting to let go. I knew it would be hard… but I didn’t know how hard it would be. About two months into his rotations I started getting depressed. My kids are age 3 and 1 (at their busiest and most stubborn stages). Day after day they would ask where Daddy was. They didn’t understand why he wasn’t coming home at night and they took it out on me. I have never seen them act so bad. The worst was when they were sad or mad and would yell “DADDY’S GONE!” They both said it every single time. I would silently whisper… “I know!” It was especially hard on my son Carson. He just didn’t understand and was angry with him and didn’t want to talk to him when he called. However at every meal he made sure I saved a plate for Daddy. He wouldn’t take his plate until he knew there was a plate for his Dad. It was so sweet. He constantly asked about him and wondered when he was coming home to play with him.

It was SO hard on me not having my best friend there with me. He was usually 3 hours ahead so when he finally got to call it was dinner and bath time. I let the kids talk to him, but it was such a crazy time of day that I never REALLY got to talk to him. Not only was this hard on me and the kids, but I know it was extremely difficult on my husband. He was working 100+ hours a week and on call pretty much every night. The field he is going into is extremely competitive and I know it is very stressful . I also know he missed us like crazy.

When I met my husband he was working 12 hour night shifts 4 days a week, going to school full time (Bio-Chem major) and studying for the MCAT…so I knew exactly what I was getting myself into.  I should of just ran away then (ha) but I couldn’t. I fell deeply in love with that man. He is the most loving and hardworking father /husband I could have asked for. I know these past few months have strengthened us as a family and I absolutely know I couldn’t have done it without my Savior. I remember one day feeling so overwhelmed. Emmalyn had spilled a bottle of nail polish right after Carson had poured out a bottle of glue on the carpet. A glass got broken, the kids were screaming, my house was a disaster, I had deadlines for different clients and I just couldn’t do it anymore. I literally burst into tears (which I never do in front of my kids) and I remember my sweet three year old telling me “mommy it will be okay. I love you.” At that moment I knew it would be okay and prayed to God for his help. I knew I couldn’t do this any longer by myself. After that I felt a huge burden lifted off of me and knew everything would be okay.

Well gosh, why am I telling you all this? I don’t know. I guess I just want you guys to know that my life certainly isn’t perfect. The last few months my house has been so disorganized and my kids usually ate chicken nuggets for dinner because it just wasn’t worth the fight.

PROOF ;)

Remember my cute little blue night stand? It is now decorated by my three year old. He is always destroying something. If you’ve been a long time reader you may remember this post. It’s a good thing he is cute as can be.

These frames have been sitting here for about six months just waiting for me to do something with them. There’s about a million other “unfinished” project around my house too.

Oh and remember my vintage grey desk… it has been “glammed up” by my toddler as well. I think just about every piece of furniture  in my home has been at one time or another.

Remember the pretty pictures of my kitchen? Well I can tell you that it looks like the picture above most days. Some of you on facebook said yours looks the same. I’m so glad I’m not alone! Since I don’t have a craft room, my kitchen table seems to be the best place. I guess it’s the true life of a crafter. LOL!

Well friends I am happy to say that my husband FINALLY got home this weekend {happy dance} and we were SO excited to see him. He drove straight across the country (30+hours) with no stops so he could get home to us. He surprised the kids a day early and they haven’t spent a minute away from him since. It is so nice to have him home! We are enjoying him while he has a few days off and are SO happy he is done with his rotations. Now we just pray he gets a spot for residency.

It’s funny how you don’t realize how much your husband does for you until they are gone. When my husband gets home each night he always plays with the kids while I make dinner. He also bathes the kids and get their pj’s on. That it his special time each night and I never realized how much of a blessing that really was. I also had never taken out the trash…ever. He never let me.The first few weeks he was gone I actually missed garbage day because I didn’t remember to take it out. He also did little things like replace the toilet paper and paper towels, help with laundry and dishes.  But most of all the thing I missed most was just being with him. A simple hug at the end of the day made all the craziness of the day go away. It got so lonely every night with out him and I’m so glad I get to snuggle up to him tonight. I think I watched five different shows (the whole seasons) on Netflix while I worked at night so that it didn’t seem so lonely.

With my husband gone I tried to keep myself  busy to pass the time by and it sort of worked, but I don’t recommend the craziness. I kept busy with the blog and posted 6-7 days a week on I Heart Nap Time, twice a week on Baby Center as well as posted on a few  other sites each month. I got an implant surgery and then had to get that same surgery again to get it taken out because it didn’t work (ARGH). I was that one percent chance. I also did two TV shows. I planned and co-hosted The Glitter Academy with over 100 guests. AND I wrote an e-book with one of my dearest friends (which will be launching THIS WEEKEND). It really was the craziest four months of my life and I didn’t get much sleep.

I definitely couldn’t have done it without my mom. She lives about 45 minutes away, so we usually went out there on the weekends and slept over. She also helped me when I had to get both of my oral surgeries done. My MIL was also a huge help and watched the kids whenever I needed her to on the weekends. I’m so grateful for both of them. They also took the kids when I went back East to visit my husband for a couple days. I have such a hard time asking for help but I’m grateful for the people in my life that stepped in and were there for me.  I have one friend in particular ( you know who you are ) who was a heaven sent angel.

 I know many of you are going through A LOT harder things in your life and that makes my heart hurt. I had to remind myself of this saying every day “The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for.” I know I will probably go through a lot harder things in life and I’m grateful that I am now a stronger person. God is good. He really is.

If you’re still reading (hi mom!) thanks for sticking with me through these months. I know I have been terrible at getting to e-mails, comments and questions but I will slowly catch up. I really appreciate each one of you!

Hugs- Jamielyn

Jamielyn Nye is the owner and managing editor of I Heart Nap Time. She aspires to reach women, get their creative juices flowing, and to genuinely inspire. Her unique projects have been featured on many popular websites, including: BHG, Martha Stewart, Fox, ABC, People, Parents and more. When she’s not creating . . . Jamielyn loves to chase her two little monkeys and snuggle up on the couch with her man.

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105 Responses to “The hardest months of my life…”

  1. Mel

    Good for you for sharing this. I think if there is one thing about “Blog Land” that annoys me is all the perfection. Kids are kids – they have bad days and can be naughty ect just as much as they are cute and we love them to bits. Life can be hard, but it also can be great, it’s the mistakes and hard times that teach us how to be the people we want to be. Oh and a messy house – please your kids are babies, i have 2 that age a 10 year old and 2 teens – I gladly gave up the idea of the perfect home for a happy home.

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  2. rebecca lopez

    Thanks for sharing this. It really helps me feel like I’m not alone. Our situation isn’t quite as radical as yours has been, but it is still rough. My hubby works 70+ hours a week and only gets two weekdays off. It’s hard because he’s never home for dinner, can’t attend karate events for our son, or school events. We get a date night maybe once every 6-8 month’s because of his schedule. And it feels like he never gets to see the boys. I’m the one that gets up with the boys every morning to get them going, and I’m the one that does homework, dinner, and bed alone. It’s so rough sometimes and I feel so alone doing it…none of my friends have this type of situation at home. It makes me jealous…but then I remember how incredibly blessed we are, how much God provides for us, the privilege I have of being able to stay home with these two crazies ( I have many days during the week of near mental breakdowns and tear fests on my part ) and that its all worth it. And when he is home his time is treasured with his kids and I couldn’t ask for more.

    Keep up the great work! Your one tough Momma! :).

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  3. Marina (YummyMummyKitchen.ocm)

    Oh I adore your blog, but love this post because I can SO relate. I get comments about “making my life look perfect” all the time and it really upsets me because being a mom is so hard in itself (though wonderful too). Like you, my blog is my happy place. A place of beauty. Not a place to air dirty laundry. That doesn’t mean meals are perfect ALL the time, my house is perfect all the time, etc. I’m so happy your hubby is home. My hubby is a physician who works all hours, and though he hasn’t lived away from us, I know that “single mom” feeling – it’s hard with toddlers. Thank you for sharing how much time goes into each blog post – people just don’t realize. Being a mom is a full time job, and so is having a blog. xo

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  4. Amber @ Posh Ideas

    Thanks for sharing! You always are up to something fun. We are all imperfect and have all different types of struggles and trials!

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  5. mairin

    We love you just the way you are (messy bun and all)! I remember when you posted about the nail polish – my heart broke for you because I can’t imagine what I would have done – i was very glad to read that you got it out. Now go enjoy that husband of yours!

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  6. Britney {Jesse's Girl}

    This is a beautiful post, Jamielyn! I don’t know how you did it! I don’t know how people do stuff like this all the time. I have a friend from my last ward whose husband is a pilot and he is gone 3-4 nights a week. Another friend from that ward’s husband was a police officer and worked nights/slept days for his first year. Another woman (same ward) had a husband in the army who was gone for over 6 months. I think about these women all the time! They are amazing! My husband went on a trip to Africa in July for 10 days and I thought THAT was hard! Haha. I guess this shows us how blessed we are to have good husbands in our lives that actually help with the kids and housework!

    It’s good to show the hard side of your life on your blog sometimes (though tough). It’s still a happy, uplifting blog!

    So happy your hubby is back! :)

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  7. Tauni

    Dearest Jamielyn, I know some day you will look back on these hard days, proud of all that you’ve accomplished and happy to have learned some valuable lessons. For now though, I am just so glad that you finally have your husband home!

    Also thanks for keeping it real, because even though I understand the life of a blogger, sometimes I still think your life looks pretty perfect. xoxo

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  8. Jenn @ One Thrifty Chick

    Jamielyn you are a doll, and so is your family!! But even more that that, you are a saint. Doing it alone is the hardest thing in the world. My husband working from 9am to 9pm 6 days a week, and some nights until midnight. I usually feel alone, but you are right, that hug at the end of the day takes all that stress and fear away! Thank you so much for sharing this post, it really hit home. Oh, and Oregon would LOVE to gain your family. Not sure if that is even an option, but just sayin’! :)

    Hugs,
    Jenn

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  9. Jessi @ Practically Functional

    Thanks for sharing this! I figured I couldn’t be the only one :-) I also use our (tiny) dining room table for crafting. I stage my pictures there too, and one day for the fun of it I backed up and took a wider angle shot, and then backed even further up and took a shot of the whole kitchen. Though the close up project picture looked great, in the second shot you could see all the stuff I shoved just out of frame on the edges of the table, and in the third shot you could see that our counters were filled with dirty dishes!

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  10. Samantha

    My toddler also loves to draw on everything but I got the greatest tip from my mom WD40 takes crayon off anything. Hope that helps.

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  11. Kami

    Oh Jamielyn, you amaze me. With two little kids and a husband gone so much, you really have so much on your plate. I am constantly impressed by how you do it all with not much complaining. I wish I lived close to you, I’d love to help you!

    You have such a cute family. I love that you shared this peek into your craziness right now. One day you will love to read this peek into your life right now and pat yourself on the back and say “I did it!!” :)

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  12. Nicole

    Oh, Thank Goodness! I’m not glad that these past months have been difficult for you, but it is very refreshing to have a blogger admit that life doesn’t always look like a magazine cover. My partner works out of town all week & sometimes for several weeks at a time. So, I am alone dealing with our daughter and the household duties. It can be so overwhelming. But you are definitely right – Never take life for granted. Thanks for genuinely sharing your story :)

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  13. Katie {Sweet Rose Studio}

    I’m so glad that you were able to get this off of your chest Jamielyn! I know you’ve been struggling for awhile and I’m so proud of you for making it through. You’ve shared one of the best things I’ve learned about blogging: nothing is ever really “perfect.” We all have our good days, our bad days, and our ridiculously awful days and when I’ve needed to share or vent, the blogging community is there to uplift and comfort. Hugs girl!

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  14. Christina @ The DIY Mommy

    Jamielynn, I think you must be my long lost twin! ;) I feel so similar as a DIY blogger and mom of two babies with a hubby working long hours. I totally understand the longing to keep your blog a “happy place” because I feel the same. We are certainly not perfect, but I think it’s OK to share prettiness and inspiration with the internet (which can be filled with a lot of yucky stuff)! :) Hugs!

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  15. Jenn

    Thanks for such a heartfelt post! It is definitely something that pretty much all of us can relate to. I’m so glad your hubby is home and your kids have their Daddy back. I’m sure your son was happy to be able to fill his plate up at last! Enjoy your time together. Love your blog!!
    Jenn :)

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  16. Sara @ Mom Endeavors

    Wow, Jamielyn! I have NO idea how you have done everything you’ve accomplished the past 6 months with your husband being gone! I had no idea everything you’ve been going through! Glad that he’s finally home now!!

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  17. Christine

    I appreciate this post so much. There are times in blog-land that I seem so insufficient because you all seem to do it all and always have a smile on your face. I’m a mother of 4 grandmother of 2, Navy wife, volunteer at school and work a couple hours a day. I never have a clean house and by the time we get home from all the pick-ups and drop-offs we are lucky to eat by 1930. I feel like a failure most days and as ridiculous as it sounds it’s nice to know I’m not alone. I’m glad your hubby is home and your family is whole once again. Thanks again for sharing!

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  18. Allyssa

    Thank you for sharing! I can relate to this as my boyfriend has been working up north for the past 9 months and is only home maybe once a month. We don’t have any kids which makes it a little bit easier, however I work a full-time job, am a Girl Guide (Scouts) leader and will be going back to school for nights within the bext 2 weeks. Cleaning and cooking usually gets put to the side as I come home have to plan this weeks meeting which takes all night. Not having kids makes me appreciate those that do and have to go through similar trials as me. You are a super mom and woman! Enjoy your hubby while you can! Thanks for sharing! :)

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  19. Rebecca

    Thank you for you post. Thank you for showing that your life is such as normal as any other! I love the photos ! I love your blog and now i knew that having sometimes a messy home is normal ♥
    Big huges
    Rebecca

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  20. Allyssa

    I just read this and can relate to the stress and turmoil. My boyfriend has been working out of town for the past 9 months and I am lucky if I get to see him once a month for 4 days. We do not have any kids but working a full time job while taking a night course and running a Girl Guide unit is stressful. Just today at work I could feel the stress building up in my head about what needs to be cleaned at home and what we are going to do at this week’s meeting. It felt like my head was about to explode. I am pretty sure my house hasn’t been cleaned in over a week but that’s the price you pay I suppose. I thought I had it pretty bad but now I now that there are worse off then me and I have the utmost respect for you and everyone else out there who runs blogs, takes care of their kids as well as cooking, cleaning and trying to have a life. You are super mom/woman so go enjoy your hubby and cherishe every moment. :)

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  21. Mindy

    I love that you shared this! I cannot imagine my husband being away for that long even with just my almost-3 year old son!! You are one brave mama! I am amazed! There are always those days where the house looks like a mini tornado went through! ;) I love your blog, and thanks again for sharing this! Your husband is so happy to be home I am sure! Enjoy!

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  22. Becky

    Congrats on hanging in there through a rough time and I am glad that blogging has given you an outlet. Glad to hear that your husband is home and best of luck in his next steps in medicine!

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  23. Kim

    Thank you for sharing this with us. I am so glad for you and your family that your husband is home. That is such a cute picture of your family. The Lord is good. I really like your blog and thank you for keeping things real. I am going through some tough times now and try to think about all the things I have in my life to be grateful for. It helps like you said. Thanks.

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  24. jamie

    this is so beautiful! and so are you!!! thanks so much for sharing your heart… I can’t imagine what a difficult journey it has been.

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  25. Chris

    Thanks for all of the effort and time you put into your blog. You’re such a creative person and so kind to go to all the trouble to share your projects with us. Keep up the good work!

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  26. Jade

    It’s so easy to get lost in the beautiful pictures, fun tutorials and yummy recipes in blogville. It’s important for all of us to remember that behind those pictures, tutorials and recipes are real people with real lives and real joys and sorrows. Thanks for sharing your story and reminding us all that we’re all real people no matter what our blog might lead you to believe! ;)

    Glad you have your hubs back – they sure are important people, aren’t they?

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  27. Abbey

    Jamielyn–In working with you, I truly admire that you are able to accomplish as much as you do every week ESPECIALLY given your husband’s work schedule and juggling TWO kids {one is hard enough for me!}. And on top of it all, you still are fairly young, but you act so professional and business savvy! Look what you have accomplished with this site! This site, your Glitter Academy, your professionalism and seeing how many brands want to work with you just are proof that you’re doing something right on top of being essentially husband-less for several months. You got this girl! This is an “I am momma, hear me roar” moment for you. Keep doing what you’re doing. You are SO sweet and such a hard worker and you’re going places, lady. I’m glad to have met you and that I get to work with you.
    xo~Abbey

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  28. Melissa @ Bless This Mess

    Yea for real life! This was super refreshing for us ALL. You’ve got to know that all us bloggers just want to be YOU…. almost 2 million Pinterest followers… yes please! But this totally puts things into perspective and that’s a nice place for things to be. Keep up the good work, it’s paying off.

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  29. Rachel

    Thank you for sharing! Congratulations on all that you have accomplished, you rock! I am very happy for you that your husband is home again and will say a prayer that he gets a residency (that works for all of you!) very quickly.

    Also, I have the same pink tool set that you have on your table! And while I’ve been trying to keep my kitchen table free and clear the giant computer desk that I do my crafts on is WAY worse…

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  30. Brittany @ My Decoupaged Life

    I have that same pink toolkit! But seriously, I’m sorry it’s been so hard. I admire you. Seriously, I actually took a step back from blogging because it was all getting overwhelming. I’ve loved your blog from way back when it was just getting started when I found it by chance. It’s nice to see that no one’s life is perfect though. I’m happy for you that your husband is home now. Go spend time with him and I think we’ll all understand if you’re not posting quite as much so you can spend time with him!

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  31. Courtney

    I get it! I’m there right now. My husband is four months into his residency for OMS and I am nine months pregnant (surprise!). He has to study around the clock for a test he has to take in November so even when he is home he’s not “home”. My kids miss him, I miss him and I worry that this new baby won’t get to know him.

    I spend the nights that he is on call on my computer trying to “grow” and figure out ways that I can finance the projects I have taken on to distract myself.

    I think the hardest part is keeping myself from complaining. I’m not a happy pregnant woman but he’s so stressed out that I worry about placing any unnecessary burdens on his already weighed down soul. Can’t walk today? Suck it up. Someone makes rude comments about your kids being loud at church? Deal with it yourself.

    Things will get better for both of us in about a month after his test is done and the baby is born (and things will REALLY get better next year when his chief resident from hell is gone. Until then I bury myself in projects and try to be mentally ok with mac and cheese or pizza for dinner every night until December.

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  32. Ali

    I just want to thank you for keeping it real, and being totally honest.
    I’m somewhat new to the blog world, and seeing everyone’s perfect houses, and new beautiful crafts each day was starting to make me feel really down. Thank you for posting picture of how your house really looks… mine is very similar (other than my colored on furniture is not as gorgeous underneath the crayon).
    I applaud you for all of the hard work you have put in while your husband was away, both physical hard work and mental hard work. Our household is going through tough times too, you aren’t alone at all on that. Talking with friends alot lately, I’ve heard some good advice that everything WILL pass, good and bad. Enjoy the good things, kids grow way too fast, and let the bad roll off of you.

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  33. Karyn

    Hi Jamilyn!
    It’s so nice to learn more about you. Sometimes other people’s lives look really wonderful from the outside and it was nice of you to share the struggles you are facing. Wishing you continued blessings!

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  34. Brenda

    One of my favorite posts … ever! Thank you! I love how you let us all have a peek at your crazy life. It makes those of us with crazy lives feel a little more comfortable in our own circumstances. I really hate to read blogs that seem unrealistic. If I want fantasy, I’ll read a fiction novel. :) So glad for your family to be back together under the same roof again. I’m married to a retired Army man. Our first three years of marriage, we only spent year 2 together. Year 1 & 3 were spent apart. So I know where you’re coming from. Of course, we didn’t have kids, so it made it a little easier (okay — probably a lot easier). Although we had two cats. Do they count? Love your blog. Thanks for keeping it real.

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  35. Sarah

    Gosh sounds like you’ve been through a pretty rough patch. So glad your husband is back home! My husband is currently a 2nd year resident. Med school was rough too! Residency is worse hours, but at least they are always at their “home” hospital. I hope your husband’s interviews go well! Doing all that travel is such a huge expense… gah! I can’t imagine having to do all that with kids! Maybe you guys can go on some of his interview trips with him? Check out the cities! :)

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  36. how2home

    This is such a personal post and thank you for being so honest with us. I know exactly how you feel and how your kids feel b/c I’ve been in the same situation since i was a kid. My dad has always been the traveling type. He’d be away from home for about 6-8 months out of the entire year and now I’m 24. He is still working the same kind of schedule. But now that i’m all grown up, I understand why my dad is ‘gone’, and grew a huge appreciation for my dad and what he is doing for his family. All the best to your husband and his residency! Just keep reminding your kids how much dad loves them and skype with them as much as possible :) The advantages of technologies these days :)

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  37. {amy k.}

    this has been my favorite blog post of yours, ever. i appreciate the realness. none of us are perfect, but we have a tendency to feel like we are the only ones who aren’t perfect when we get caught up in what seems to be such perfectness in blog land. thanks for being real and for sharing such tender moments with us. so happy your husband is home now, what a great feeling that must be!

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  38. Alexandra

    Jamielyn, you are amazing! I love your blog and just can’t imagine how you do it. (But i know why – when my husband had to be gone for the night, i would do anything just not to go to bed alone and lonely). Thank you for sharing your story. So often looking at craft blogs we see perfect pictures of perfect kids and perfect homes. Thank you for being honest. And hurray for your husband being home, i hope he finds a residency soon with the hours that would allow for play times and snuggle times. :) Blessings, Alexandra

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  39. Molly

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m a working mom and I feel like I will always have a major case of mom-guilt. I never feel like I spend enough time w/ my baby, enough time making our house look nice, enough time cooking and enough time loving my husband. I finally had a sobbing breakdown w/ my sweet husband who reminded me to give myself permission to chill out.

    Some mommy bloggers make it seem like they have it all together, but I appreciate your candid post, and the reminder that sometimes we just have to lean on the Lord. :) Thanks again!

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  40. Emily Johnson

    I’m so glad you look to Christ for strength! Thanks for mentioning him and your great need for him. I hope more people will see their great need for his unfailing love & strength amongst all this chaos.
    Thx for sharing your story. Keep loving your family. You will reap the rewards.

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  41. Rachel

    Jamielyn you are the cutest. Thanks for sharing. I think the blog world is a little too perfect sometimes but it’s nice to have a reality check like this from time to time so we know we’re all struggling. I’m so glad your hubby is back home!

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  42. Ashley @ Mommy By Day Crafter By Night

    Jamielyn… You are so awesome! I can’t even imagine having my hubby gone for so long (which could likely happen in our future since he joined the army to go through school- but still). It is the worst when kids miss daddy! I am sure it was just heartbreaking for you to see their little hearts broken and missing him. I am so glad that he got to come home for a little break to be with you guys. I will be thinking about you and praying for you guys while you are waiting to hear if he gets his residency. Thanks for being so real and letting us into the “non perfect” side of you ;) It’s good for everyone in blogland to see that side of our favorite bloggers sometimes! :) Have fun as a family!! xoxo

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  43. Autumn Joy

    Thank you for sharing! I appreciate knowing that you’re normal too. Your son always saving his daddy a plate broke my heart. I’m so happy that your hubby is back and your family is complete again!

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  44. Steph R

    I never really understand people who say things like “This blogger’s life looks perfect/fake/whatever”. Obviously your blog is an outlet for creative things – not every nook and cranny of your life. That said, I absolutely LOVED this post. I don’t usually comment but I just had to because our lives are so very similar except I only have one 2 month old baby girl and my husband works about 2 hours away so he is able to come home on weekends. But it’s so true just having your best friend gone makes things harder and I swear we have the same lives! Right down to the empty frames, Netflix marathons and crafting kitchen table! Not saying you have to be this intimate in every post but I did really enjoy reading a bit more about the “real” part of your life. :) And Wicked is the greatest musical in the world!!!

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  45. Liz @ LizzieJane Baby

    6 months is a long time. I hate when my husband is gone on an overnight scout camp out. Way to hang in there and keep yourself busy. So glad you are all back together! 2 toddlers is a lot of work and I think as parents of them, I don’t think we are supposed to have nice things. :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts and life with us.

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  46. Vanessa @ See Vanessa Craft

    YAY for your hubby coming home! My house looks about the same right now, definitely NOT perfect. Thank you for being so honest and I hope things are a little easier now that your other half is finally back :)

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  47. Cristiana

    What a beautiful post!! This kind of stuff makes us stronger and makes the rest of us appreciate what we have!! You are one brave young woman, and you will be blessed!! So glad your hubby is home!!

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  48. Amy Riddle

    Thanks for posting this! My husband leaves in the early morning hours tomorrow for a month. Then we get him back for about 3 months, and he will deploy for 9 months. I’m glad to know that not everyone is perfect, no matter how it looks online. :) It makes me even more thankful for this last night we have together before the craziness of my life will descend ( 3 kids 8, 6 and 3, plus my 3 college classes and all the classes and work of starting up a home daycare on an Army post, to say nothing of my photography business… lol). Whew, I’m tired already!
    I hope that you’re posting good news soon about your husband’s residency!! :)

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  49. tami brose

    I hate it when my husband is gone. He was never gone as long as yours though. Kudos for being human and admitting it. BTW, cute family. I hope he finds a residency soon and you can be together.

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  50. Ruth

    Hi, Jamielyn! Thanks for sharing this. It really gave me an opportunity to feel a deep sense of gratitude, and I want to share that with you and your family.

    I am a mom of two little girls that have spent a lot of time in hospitals. We are so grateful for all the medical professionals who have helped them over the years. We definitely have some favorite people at several hospitals across the country who have had a huge impact on our family. I feel so grateful for the time and sacrifice they put into gaining the education and experience necessary so that they could be the hands to work the miracles we prayed so hard for! There are at least two residents I can think of whose actions had a profound effect on our daughters’ getting correct diagnoses and specific specialized care that they may not have received had it not been for those residents being confident enough to speak up and make recommendations. I’ve experienced a husband having to be in school and live away for a time, too, when my kids were little, I know how hard that is! So, on behalf of the patients that your husband is going to take care of and be a miracle worker for, I just want to tell YOU (and your sweet kiddos) thank you for your willingness to sacrifice and help him get the training he needs. Don’t ever forget that what you did the past few months really, truly is part of the miracle another family will need someday.

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  51. Dee Dee

    What a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing with us. It’s important for us to remember that life isn’t perfect and that’s okay. It’s important to cherish the good times and bad :) Thanks Jamielyn for opening up to your readers. :)

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  52. Twins Squared

    Thank you so much for sharing this! With two sets of twins, ages 7 and 3, I feel overwhelmed most days. It helps to know that I am not alone. When I sew things for my kiddos, most of my blogpost pictures are taken outside because I can’t find a spot in the house that doesn’t look like a bomb went off! :)

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  53. Aimee

    Thank you for your transparency and for admitting you are real! I have also been discouraged by thinking some of the bloggers had everything together and their lives were just so perfect! I have just found your Blog and will definitely be following it!

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  54. Carrie

    As a single mom, you should know it is okay to cry in front of your children. If they didn’t color the furniture, trim their own bangs, spill nail polish, empty a bottle of baby powder across the entire room…we wouldn’t have the “remember when” stories.

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  55. Melanie

    Thank you for posting this. Probably the best, most uplifting, honest posts I’ve read in a LONG time! We both live in North Phoenix…and my 2 1/2 year old would love your little girl! We should plan a Target trip together soon!

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  56. Wifemombrooke

    Stumbled upon your website today through Pinterest, and I love it! Just wanted to say thank you for posting such an open and honest story. Everyone feels better when they know they are not alone! I’m sure I’m not the only one right now with a scary teething one year old!

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  57. Luana

    Thank you for sharing! It’s not always an easy thing to open up and be so honest online, it’s really refreshing to read this and know we’re not alone. I can relate to the husband being away thing, even though mine isn’t for such long periods of time, it’s really not easy. Keep up the good work mama!

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  58. Maria

    Thanks for sharing! You are amazing! I think it is hard to blog with a baby and my husband is around. I love my job, wouldn’t change it for anything, but blogging and being a mom is hard work. It isn’t just baking cookies:) Best wishes to you and your adorable family! Again, you are amazing!

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  59. Kim McEvoy

    I was born in arizona while my dad was in his medical residency, I put my hubby throught dental school with 1, then 2, then a 3rd kid came to our family. I must say your grad school experience has been harder then mine. I do however understand the craziness!

    I love how you ended saying it will prepare you for the trials (blessings :-)) ahead. It is so true, Our Father in heaven leads us along on the path to perfection. I love the blog, and you even with all your “restyled furniture” from your kids. I think there are plenty of rag on momness blogs, so i appreciate that you keep yours happy and upbeat. enjoy the hubs.

    Kim

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  60. Kami Shaw

    What an AMAZING post! I know you’re not perfect, but sometimes it is easy to forget that when you produce such and wonderful and cute blog. Our family is going through a hard time right now, my Husband is working full time and preparing for Dental school and our 1 year old has been diagnoses with a rare autoimmune disease. Sometimes I am not sure how I am going to make it to the end of the day, and sometimes I feel horrible about myself that I am always behind. I just know we would be friends if we lived closer! Thank you for being so real!

    Kami

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  61. Amanda

    This is the first post of yours that I’ve ever read of yours and I’m following you for sure! I almost cried reading your post. It is true that many bloggers lives appear perfect or near so. It’s amazing to get a little peek into someone else’s life and know that we’re not the only ones who have it hard sometimes/have a crazy life/have crazy kids/have a messy house, etc. Thanks for sharing!

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  62. Catie

    Thanks for sharing!! Everyone has their own struggles. NO one is perfect. Thanks for the window into your life. :-)

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  63. Julie Q

    I’ve totally been a lurker that has loved and attempted quite a few DIY projects from your blog (mostly for my now 19mos old’s 1st bday party). She’s turned into quite the artist as well with a crayon and now most of our furniture is covered in it (thankfully they are the washable ones). I chuckled at all your pics in this post with the crayons :)
    Thanks for sharing this post with your readers!

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  64. Julie B

    Wow! I have been checking out your amazing blog for sometime now and have been really enjoying it although never realized how much I can actually relate! My husband and I went through the exact same thing only as newlyweds without kids. We are now in residency and still haven’t begun our family yet. I look at you and my other resident wife friends who have kids and am just amazed at how you all are able to do it. Impressive… you ladies are the true model of a mom and wife. People don’t realize how tough it is to be the wife of a medical student (and a mom too)- my husband says there should be some kind of support group! ;)
    Take Care!

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  65. Tippy Wild

    You are amazing! I love reading your blog, and when I’m having a bad/busy day with my two young, crazy kids, it’s nice to come here for a break and read something uplifting.

    Thank you for sharing your life with us!

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  66. Sally

    I can so relate! I remember that last year of med school being so awful. I’d like to tell you that next year will be better, but the first year of residency is going to push your family harder than you ever thought possible. I can tell you how to survive it though. Pray every day for opportunities for service, and then remember that it really will get better!

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  67. sheri

    i remember all to well the time my husband called while away on a business trip and I just found out the kids had lice and I was madly tearing out the sheets, washing kids and feeling very titchy myself and so wanted his help… and just coming off as bitch on the phone….now the kids are grown and we still panic about them but have to take a step back and take a deep breath as they are grown and we have done our job …now I think the job is harder because you just can’t wash the problems out of their hair. Very glad your hubby is back to help.

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  68. vidia

    I understand a not perfect life and house …but you have the biggest blessings of all Your kids and your husband… my grandmother use to said “When you enter a house that have toys,crayons marks and you have to be careful were you step ….You just enter a HOME ”
    God bless you and give you strength everyday

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  69. McKenzie @ Girl Loves Glam

    What a hard thing to go through! I can’t imagine how tough that would be. Thank you for sharing your story. It is nice to get a reminder of how unperfect people’s “perfect” lives are. You are a great strength for all of your readers! Congrats on getting this part OVER WITH! What a huge accomplishment!

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  70. paige swafford

    my husband & i have been together for 20 yrs. we share 6 kids together, all being ours, and pregnant with our 7th. GOD has really blessed our family & please if your a praying person pray for me & my family.

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  71. Lindy

    You are one strong lady!!!!! What a wonderful post! I absolutely love your blog and I can totally relate to this. My hubby doesn’t travel but he is on call 24/7 and he’s missing alot. xoxo

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  72. Kristin Wiebe

    Jamielyn I just came across your blog yesterday as I was looking into some Christmas craft ideas. I was struck by your post. I am the wife of an internal medicine doc in Nebraska. We’ve been in a community for 17 years now and medical school and residency are a ways back, but the memories are still fresh. What a difficult time that is – I remember that naptimes were a time I used for me as well. My kids were great sleepers and I so appreciated that. Know that some things get better – but it’s a hard road to be in this world of medicine. Guard your family and your husband and it sounds like you cherish each other! Be encouraged!

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  73. Amy Anderson

    This is such a great post! It’s totally true. People say that about a book – “oh, it must be amazing to be an author!” I am not ungrateful, but it was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done and you don’t make much money. I feel blessed for all I have, but the point is that behind the curtain things are a bit different than they appear. Thanks for letting us behind your curtain! :D

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  74. Jenna

    Jamielynn, how brave and honest of you to post the real truth! I’m wearing the clothes that I found on the floor this morning and jumped into when the 14 month old starting calling out. There is no one coming home at 5 o’clock because I was approached by the state to adopt my boys/ grandchildren and I am a single parent. But that’s just fine. And my kitchen looks just like that! I clear off the table (most of the time) to post blog pics. But best of all is your real story of being overwhelmed with glue, nail polish and a glass pot. I’ve been there! Heck, I’m mostly always there. Everynight I put the baby (2 months) to bed while his brother (14 months) roams the house shrieking or crying or causing chaos. I never know whether to laugh or cry but I pray everynight and God answers. Last night it came in the form of the oldest walking the diaper genie out of the room while I fed the baby…laughed so hard I don’t remember putting Bubba in his crib. Sorry for the long post but I have to applaud when bloggers are real enough to post truth vs magazine type photos. And any blog titled “I heart naptime’ has my vote!

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  75. Esther

    I might be one of your youngest readers. I’m 15. I’ve read your blog for a while but never commented. Just had to on this post.
    You have done so well with keeping the blog going during these hard times. My aunt just lost her husband (cancer). Now she’s trying to finish the house he started building for them ( it’s a master piece!) AND taking care of their four boys ages 5 and under. It’s been hard for our whole family. God has certainly helped us through it all though.

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  76. mindy pitcher

    i LOVE how real you are!!! i had to do without my husband for 2 weeks. i am such a wimp because i thought that was hard. there is nothing that we can’t handle without the saviour and our heavenly father. mom is a good thing too. ;) so happy your man is home!!!

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  77. Tina

    Thanks so much for sharing your life with us. Have a wonderful time enjoying your family .

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  78. Sarah Tagg

    Thank you so much for sharing that. Even if somehow we know other people aren’t perfect, it feels good to know that we are not the only one.

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  79. Erica

    My husband is in the middle of his residency. Believe me when I say IT GETS BETTER! Residency is still hard, but soon he’ll be out and all of the work and feeling like a single parent will be worth it. I can relate to your blog post. Hang in there!!

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  80. Sharon

    Just a quick note as I wipe away a tear. Yes, God is good. And it is heartwarming to have another sweet person in the life boat as we all try to get through the bad days. You should be so proud of yourself!

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  81. Nicci gillies

    Hello, thank you for such an honest account. I find being a mum hard. I have 3 boys and day in day out I try to find moments where I can create and complete things for amongst cleaning, cooking and all the other bits and bobs that are life. Recently my gorgeous and amazing husband built me a studio, yet with an 8, 5 yrs and 9 mth baby I just stare at it and know it houses all I will do in the future!!!! Thank you again for your honest account it is inspiring.

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  82. Laura

    Jamielyn so happy for you to have your Sweetheart home!! I can’t imagine how you survived!! Thank you for sharing this with us!! P.S. my house looks like yours on pretty much every day!!LOL!!

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  83. Trina

    I just wanted to let you know that it is amazing how you do what you do. I am so happy that your spouse is back with the family. The struggles now are meant to have a better life later, but always live in the now, tomorrow is not promised. You did an amazing job while he was away, thanks for sharing your personal story.

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  84. Jamie Matthews

    I understand your point but please don’t compare yourself to a single mom, especially when your husband is in MEDICAL school. A real single mom doesn’t have a man out there, working ,in school, or deployed. As a REAL single mom, with one paltry income and no emotional support and no real hope of things improving anytime soon, I can tell you that it is very

    I do feel bad that you have to work hard 5-8 hours a day though. From home.

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  85. Kristen

    I am so happy you shared this post (& I think it would be very dangerous for us to ever get our three year olds together! Mine is constantly coloring on her body or furniture and walls!).

    One of my favorite things I like to keep in mind when I read other blogs is this saying: “”Don’t compare someone else’s highlight reel to your behind the scenes”

    And I read your most recent post and saw that you are Mormon. I’m not Mormon but have several friends who are and it is a religion I admire so much for the family values and beliefs. My parents recently became Mormon as well. I’m happy they found a church home that will surround them in love the way Mormon’s tend to do.

    Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for putting this all out there and keeping it real!

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  86. Ann

    Imagine what it’s like for wives of deployed soldiers….all of that and they’re not sure if their husbands are even coming home. I always try to think of this when I’m irritated with my husband. I should just be happy he’s here! :-)

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